"The revulsion of revenge remains chained to this 'It was'; just as there lies concealed in all hatred the abysmal dependence upon that from which hatred at bottom always desires to make itself independent - but never can, and can all the less the more it hates." - Heidder's "What is Called Thinking"

More coming on the relation to Adorno's "Resignation."

I also want to theorize the wink further.